The Five Stages of Being Sexually Assaulted By Your Coworkers
March 8, 2023
Content Warning: Sexual assault, death, suicide Over the course of my 15-year career in the tech industry, I have been sexually assaulted at afterhour work events on four separate occasions within the past five years. When I say assault, what I mean specifically is being kissed, stroked or otherwise touched in a sexually charged way without prior consent. With the exception of one case, these incidents involved cisgender men who I had worked with before and considered to be friends or friendly colleagues.
I got my first promotion
November 2, 2020
Twelve years after I started in tech, I received a promotion to Engineering Manager. This is my very first actual promotion. By actual I mean, I didn’t have to (threaten to) leave, to gain the recognition and fair compensation for my contributions and growth within my company. To me, this is huge. It not only signifies that someone recognised me for my work and drive, but also that there is space for my personality and my ideas.
My first four weeks in isolation
April 7, 2020
About 4 weeks ago I decided to self-isolate for 14 days after coming back from a trip to London, because I felt a bit tired and run down. I wasn’t particularly concerned or anything, but I wanted to be extra cautious, especially for the vulnerable people around me. The second day, I set up my monitor and keyboard in the living room, still thinking this will be over in 2 weeks.